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Heteronormativity in Sexual Violence Prevention Work

Gender norms play a huge role in the way we discuss 💋👊. Discussions of 💬🗨 are often 👫 and frame 💬🗨 exclusively as 👦 asking 👩 to have sex.

💋👊  is a 👩’s issue in the sense that it historically has affected 👩 at higher rates, but 👦 survivors of 💋👊  often get left out of the conversation.

Young boys and girls are socialized to believe that only 👩 can be sexually harassed, assaulted, etc. This makes it harder for 👦 to recognize and identify 💋👊 that they might experience.

All of this being said, gender norms appeal to some 👦 and can be used to effectively teach 👦 about 💋👊. The “My Strength is Not for Hurting” campaign appeals to 👦 by using hegemonically masculine ideas/images.

I’m still not sure if such campaigns are worth it. They teach about important topics like 💬🗨 and advocate against 💋👊, but reinforce 👫 gender norms that contribute to rape culture and leave queer people out of the conversation.

👫 – heteronormative

💋👊 – sexual violence

💬🗨 – consent

👩 – women

👦 – men

Aging in the Gay Community

Hegemonic 💪 🙌 the male 🚶 at the height of its physical capacity.

Aging feminizes 👨 over time as their 👬 become less physically capable and move from the masculine sphere (the 👔) to the feminine sphere (the 🏡).

Because gay 👨 are generally not considered hegemonically masculine due to their sexuality, the gay 🌎 further 🙌 the connection between youthfulness and 💪.

Gay 👀💦 further 🙌 young, capable  👬 which perpetuates this phenomenon within the 🌎. The culture of the dating scene also often excludes older 👨.

When gay 👨 transition from the 👔 to the 🏡, they face a greater threat of feminization than straight 👨 and must make additional efforts to reclaim their 💪.



💪 – masculinity

🙌 – glorifies

🚶- body

👬 – bodies

👨- men

👔 – workplace

🏡 – home

🌎 – community

👀💦 – porn