Author Archives: santunez

Power When Hitting The Town

It is important to remember that given the “🕶/👠” scene and the 🌇 space, both of these settings involve different expectations and cultural scripts.

The 🌇 population should not be constructed around physical appearance. Rather, it is about an individual’s talents, virtues and experiences that earned them a position.

However, when 🕶/👠 for a night, many agreed that we do so with the intent to get noticed. We go to a bar to possibly meet someone based on physical attraction…

Is that objectification? I do not think that only women worry about their physical appearance when 🕶/👠 either. There is a pressure for both genders to look “good”

when 🕶/👠 and that mutual pressure brings me to a point made: “When 🕶/👠, power isn’t real for the women, it’s a failed💪for men.” Always the case?



🌇 = Office

🕶/👠 = Going out

💪 = Masculinity

A Parent’s Responsibility to “create their boys”

We discussed the fact that despite increased understandings of gender fluidity, we continue to socialize children in a rigid, two-sex system

Kane showed us examples of 👫 and 👬/👭 parents steering their young boys away from 💅

It was established that in society today, gay men have to prove themselves as “good enough parents,” but how are they supposed to do that?

While a 👫 father said he would feel like a failure if his son turned out to be gay, a 👬/👭 father actively steered his son

Away from certain 💅/actions of femininity. As a gay father, how does one navigate this terrain of a homophobic society while being proud of their own identity?



👫 = Heterosexual

👬/👭 = Homosexual

💅 = Icons of Femininity